Finding Comfort In Celebrating Yourself
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Hello, most amazing one. I hope you're doing well feeling well and ready to get into some goodness. My name is Ahyiana Angel and you are listening to the Quit Playing Small podcast.
Today's episode is going to be a little impromptu, but that's what I like about this new space that we're creating for ourselves. The flexibility to pop up, pop in. The flexibility to say what's on our hearts to connect at any given moment, the possibility of feeling good and uplifting each other whenever the spirit moves us.
I subscribe to this app and it is called I am, and it is a affirmation app. And so this goes back a little into what we were talking about last episode. Creating and indulging in affirmations for yourself so that you can continuously hype yourself up continuously, remind yourself of how amazing you are and really buy into your own hype.
Right? that's a part of what affirmations are, is conditioning your mind to buy into your own hype. So one of the affirmations that popped up for me today was I clap for myself, just like I clap for others. Did that one hit you? Like it hit me. I think it hit me because I recognize that it's not always true.
obviously, I want to affirm myself and condition my mind, so that, that is my frame of reference. So that, that is true. But when I really think about it, do I always clap for myself just like I clap for others? And then taking it a step further. Do I always allow others to clap for me? Do I buy in when they are clapping for me?
Do you? It's very easy when you are playing small and playing the background to hurry and try and get the light, the attention off of you. Sometimes it's hard to receive those claps. If you don't anticipate it, if you weren't ready for it, or if you're feeling a little imposter syndrome, it feels like let's just get it over with or no, no, no, no you're, you're far too kind. You know, we say things like that, but leaning into your own hype is allowing those claps is raising your hands to say clap more and not feeling like you're arrogant for doing that. It's pushing yourself past the discomfort so that you can receive the love that's being given to you.
Another thing that came to mind for me, when I read this affirmation was just how often we are in conversation with people who want to dominate the conversation, talking about themselves. Setting you up to clap for them. You know, if you're somebody who's a little bit more modest or maybe even shy or timid with your words, you may just continue to buy into other people's hype and never give them a reason to clap for you because you don't speak up about your own accomplishments and your own greatness, because you feel like you have to force your way through in order to speak up because they don't give you that opportunity cuz it's the me, me, me, me, me show. But another thing that this affirmation is saying to me and putting on my heart to share with you is that you have to make space for yourself.
If you are surrounded by those me, me, me, me, me, people interject, insert, speak up. Let them know how you're shining, what you're doing and don't be apologetic about doing it and don't feel bad for doing it because if you recognize these people are doing that exact same thing to you. And so you will always be their cheerleader, but it'll be rare that they will make space to cheer for you. And a lot of times that's because they don't even know how to cheer for you because they don't know what you're up to and what you're doing. So you have to create the space, lean into allowing others to clap for you. And if they didn't know, they need to clap for you, let 'em know that they need to clap for you.
The claps help us to push along and go further. In that journey, we need 'em we all need 'em. And even those of you who are sitting there listening to me now, thinking I can't possibly step out of my comfort zone and speak up and share with others, my greatness and my accomplishments so that they could clap for me.
I challenge you to do it, to start to try. Just once start with that one time. With that one person that you respect or that you care about and, you know, cares about you, somebody that's within your comfort zone. Speak up, share maybe just a small win with them so that they can clap for you. And you'd be surprised sometimes when you give people the opportunity to clap for you, they will take it. But if you don't give them the opportunity, they may never create it for you.
And also allow people to love on you and cherish you and appreciate you. That's a part of what their claps are. That is their way of, of acknowledging you and showing you how they feel about you and that they're proud of you. And sometimes we just don't get that. And that's why it feels uncomfortable. We don't know what to do with it because it's not the norm for us, but let's, let's try to start moving from a space where that feels normal.
Us accepting the love and appreciation of others, allow them to clap for you so that you can get used to the claps. And we take claps in all different forms. Digital, likes, text messages, phone calls, emails. We receive all the claps that we can get. Right. It all still feels good.
Remember, we are in the new stages of this thing called the quit playing small podcast and in the new stages, I need that love from you. I need those claps from you. So if you are enjoying what you are hearing so far, please free to share this podcast with a friend who you think could equally enjoy. And if you wanna take it a step further, feel free to do a review on the apple podcast app. If that is how you listen and feel free to just shoot me a DM and let me know if you're feeling this and what you would like to hear from the Quit Playing Small podcast. I appreciate you, big hugs!
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