Be What You Expect
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Hello, most awesome friend in my head. I am Ahyiana Angel and you are listening to the Quit Playing Small podcast. Oh, this is our space, your space for inspired thinking, because I want you to challenge yourself and I'm hoping that it inspires, motivated thinking as well. Excuse me if my voice sounds a little raspy and like I just woke up because I haven't been talking. If you didn't know I live alone. And so there is no one for me to talk to sometimes when I start my days, but that's okay. I've actually learned to appreciate that and have been grateful for that before in my, uh, daily gratitude, because I know some of you wake up too straight chaos.
All the people in your house, calling your name and asking for things and, um, commanding your presence in different rooms at the same time, because they need you. So I get it, especially those of you who are parents and caregivers to other people. So I understand the beauty of being able to wake up to nobody demanding anything of me except for my phone saying, look at me, look at me, look at me, which I think we all get that. But in any case, that's not why we're here today. We're here today to feel good. That's what I really feel like we're here today to do is to feel good. I hope when we get together, that's what we always do is get together to feel good.
So what's been going on for me. I wanna check in, since we last talked about what I thought I could do to self soothe. And that was in last week's episode. So if you haven't listened, go back and take a listen to that. And one of the things that I mentioned that I wanted to do was get back into my practice of meditation or just stillness and, and learning how to quiet my mind again and practicing that.
And so I wanted to check in with you to just share where I've been with that and how I've been doing on that journey cause it's like, you talk about some of these things sometimes. And we say some of the things that we should do and call out some of the things that we know we should be putting into practice, but oftentimes it's just lip service, especially on a podcast.
You guys don't know what I'm doing day to day and how I'm doing it. You wouldn't know unless I tell you. So I wanted to check in because I really want this to be our space of being authentic and real with each other. And sometimes I'm gonna ask you to check in with me and I hope that you you're not shy about doing so.
I did do some meditation this morning and I did do some meditation a couple days ago. I have not been doing it daily still but what I have been doing that I am excited about is every morning when I wake up, I have been making it a point to lay there and recite my affirmations before I do anything else.
And that has felt good to me because it allows me a moment of stillness. It allows me a moment of also gratitude because I do incorporate gratitude in there and it allows me to hype myself up with good vibes before I start my day. And I feel like that's also my intention with meditation is good vibes, creating good vibes for myself.
And so while I'm not perfect with the practice of getting back into daily meditation, I'm trying, I'm working my way there and who knows, maybe I'll never be a daily meditator, but maybe I will be someone who is able to incorporate stillness and quiet moments into my day. And for me, that would be enough.
Speaking of, I was reciting some of my affirmations that I have written down in my little beautiful book here with the gold binding . And one thing that stood out to me was these words, I'll share them with you. People will go out of their way to be good to me. I took that. I let it sit with me for a second.
Cause I like to do that. Let some of these affirmations sit with me for a second. Before I go on to affirming and reading the next one to myself or allowed and so I let this one sit with me for a second. And I was like, you know, I like this, it really speaks to what I want in my life. Channeling more good energy all the time and believing that other people have good energy for me.
So I said, what about if I say I will go out of my way to be good to other people and people will go out of their way to be good to me. Let's say it again. I will go out of my way to be good to other people and other people will go out of their way to be good to me. Ooh, I just love that. And so what I did was. I started breathing in reciting to myself in my mind, the first part, I will go out of my way to be good to other people and exhaling other people will go out of their way to be good to me. And I just kept doing that breathing rhythm for a minute. And what I started to think about was if I do this enough in the moments where I need to breathe deeply, I need to stop myself and channel something different.
If I continue to plant these seeds in my own mind, these are some of the things that will naturally come up for me. And that I'll be able to recall like a habit, if I do this now in my moments of calm and stillness, if I embed this in my mind, now it'll come up easily for me when I really need it. And it's that.
So that's one piece for me, right? Is that I like that. I, I realize that that could be a possibility in a tool that I could use. But the other thing is I just really like the words when I think about it and my mission to try and be the best version of myself, cuz that that does include self-reflection right, and self-assessment, and I realize that I do go outta my way for other people, quite regularly. And it's not something that I try to do every day. I'm like, oh, I have to go outta my way for two or three people today. That's gonna make me a great person. No, it's just embedded in me. When people ask things of me, I go out of my way to help figure it out or provide an answer. When people mention things to me that they are in need of, maybe it's a connection, maybe it's a resource. What have you? I go outta my way to see if there's something I can do for them. And so I challenge you to think about the times that you go out of your way for other people to notice those times and to receive this mantra and this affirmation that you go out of your way for other people. And in turn, other people will go out of their way to be good to you because we cannot possibly expect or recite an affirmation like people will go out of their way to be good to me. If we know deep down in our hearts that we meet other people regularly, with opposition with troubled spirit and energy with negativity.
If we meet other people with that type of energy on a regular basis, how can we possibly think and expect and live in expectation that other people are gonna go out of their way to be good to us? If we are not ever going out of our way to be good to other people. If that's not the spirit that we embody, we can't expect that other people are going to go out of their way for us.
So I challenge you if you know that you are a person who does not regularly go out of their way for other people. And, and let me just insert this caveat here. I don't mean extremely inconveniencing in yourself. I don't mean burning yourself out for the good of somebody else. No, I'm just talking about the little things, the little opportunities that we have sometimes take those opportunities.
That's all I'm saying. So if you know that you are a person who doesn't take those opportunities, this is where you gotta check yourself. This is where you have to Quit Playing Small. A part of playing big is having a big heart too, and embracing others is showing others the goodness inside of you, because you know that as you continue to do that, that will by sheer nature come back to you. That's the way the universe works. And it won't always be that it'll come back to you in a way that you can see or that you notice immediately. Sometimes it's just, you'll look up and you'll be like, wow, all these good things are happening to me. And when you really sit and think about it, you can attribute it to, if nothing else, the fact that you've been good to other people, so other people are being good to you. And it's starting to show.
Thank you so much for spending time with me today. If you could see me, I stretch my arms out sometimes when I say that, because it's like, I'm ready to give you a big embrace and hug because I appreciate you sharing this space with me. I know you don't have to. I know there's so many other things vying for our attention, but I appreciate you. And I appreciate you being here with me and allowing me to be a friend in your head just as you are in mine.
And before I go this week, I wanna show some love to those of you who have been leaving reviews on iTunes. Ooh, I so get excited when I read these, I always love to hear what you guys have to say. And so the latest one comes from powerful pin star. The title of it is inspiring. Ooh. Yes. I love that.
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Feel free to do so. And maybe I'll be reading your review next. Thank you so much for spending time with me. As I mentioned before, I do not take it for granted. I hope that you have an amazing day ahead and I will connect with you next time.
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